Why is it so hard to manage stress?
Why does stress often feel like a wild beast that cannot be tamed?
Stress is there to keep you alert and prepared in case of danger.
Yet since it stems from a primitive part of the brain, it’s relying on information stored from your earliest bad experiences, which it keeps on file in your deep below the surface of conscious thought.
This is not at all to say you’re not entirely in control of your stress response – it keeps triggering the stored emotions, even when your rational self wishes it wouldn’t.
So even if you try by telling yourself everything is and will be fine, that primitive brain keeps silently sending signals that say otherwise. The result is that feeling of anxiety, overwhelm or stuckness.
In my life coaching programs I teach the practice of ‘Positive Intelligence’ because stress is actually generated by these inner voices, known as your Saboteurs.
In Positive Intelligence theory, Saboteurs are the negative thought habits and patterns that live deep in your unconscious and derail your performance and happiness. The tricky part is, these thought patterns sound like they’re giving you great advice. They were developed during childhood as a way to protect you from physical and emotional harm. The fact that you no longer need their help makes no difference.
Which is why, unless you come face to face with your Saboteurs, they’ll keep running your life and you’ll think this was just meant to be.
Or better said; “Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”
– Carl Jung
So how do you recognise your hidden patterns of self-saboteurs during stress, so your rational calm mind or wiser self can take over?
Firstly we look at what is hiding underneath, assess how you do this type of thinking and why this type of faulty thought patterns were created in the first place.
Of course, understanding what is the true nature of the 'beast' doesn’t instantly fix the problem, but it’s an important first step.
The next piece is to keep pulling your focus away from reliving the past or worrying about the future is where the real opportunity for growth.
We work on making the stress response smaller and weaker. We literally take away it's power over you.
The solution lies in the consistent ability to shift your focus and attention onto how you DO want to respond.
When you know how to manage your stress response, you have everything you need to begin breaking free of feelings of fear, anxiousness and emotional overload.
As a life coach I will teach you specific life skills to tame unhelpful thoughts, so you leave with an emotional toolbox that no stress-beast can ever mess with.
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR & COACH
Catherine is a heart-centred empowerment coach who specialises in helping people create confidence, fully nourish their self esteem and nurture self-love.
Her work centres on supporting people’s journey in finding ease and healing from the grips of anxiety, depression, grief, self-sabotage and anger.
Catherine is a mindset expert who will help you break down ‘thought barriers’ and self limiting beliefs so you can let go of the self-doubt, find joy while being unapologetically yourself.
She specifically works with you on how to stand in your truth, show up as your authentic self, and let go of the masks.
Catherine will share with you how to step into your power and confidently live the life you deserve and desire.
She offers her wise words, actions, and guidance to help you connect positively with your body, mind and soul.
Her sessions provide you with real-life the support and the readily accessible tools you need to achieve this.
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